HOW TO LIVE MORE INTENTIONALLY

“Look for the good moments because the bad ones come all by themselves.” -Gaby Vargas

Good times. Bad times. We get to experience all of it in our lifetime. Yet somehow, when we flip the date on a calendar to a new year, we expect only good times, and good health, as if there was some kind of magic trick in starting a new year. The trick is actually in knowing we have the power to create the life we want to enjoy the good moments and navigate through the bad moments. We get to choose how intentionally we live, within the realm of our environment and its obstacles.

We are all born with peace and time (limited, but still with time.) As we grow and get older, our environment and often our choices, begin to dwindle that innate peace. And as soon as we are born, that timer starts ticking. We always assume we will live long, healthy lives, and G-d-willing, we will; however, there are many of us, who have gone through life-changing health scares or lost loved ones before their time, (or both,) and as a result, we have learned first-hand that life is a fragile gift. We know the pain of having someone we love, leave this Earthly plane way too soon. We have also learned by facing death and seeing death first-hand, that “before their time,” can be at any time for any of us.

This is why I focus so much on gratitude and on appreciating the moments shared with family, friends, and loved ones, while I have them. We need to learn to be grateful for everything we have in the moment because as we get older, it is some of those unexpected moments in our lives that culminate into cherished memories.

I know you can’t love or even like everyone all of the time, G-d knows that is no easy task – LOL – but we can try to be kind and compassionate to others. You can try to be the change you wish to see in the world. You don’t even have to be famous to be a change maker. You can make a difference, whether it is in the lives of many people; or just one person at a time, starting with yourself! You can make a difference one day at a time to help change the world for the better. The chaos around us doesn’t change, we change, and we become better equipped to handle life and all the challenge that come with it.

Like Jim Rohn said, “Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.” When we shift our perspective inward instead of trying to change the outward, we become better.

This is why I am trying to share as much love and light as I can, even if it’s just through writing and in trying to help motivate and inspire others live as happy and as healthy lives as possible. It is what I believe to be my mission – to help others understand the power we each hold within, to transform our lives and to make a positive difference in the world. For me, as I write, not only is it cathartic but it is often, self-talk. Working on myself is a lifelong project, as it should be for all of us. We have all had some kind of project in our lives, but what we were never taught in school is that WE are the project! We are here in Earth school to learn and become better versions of ourselves.

Start by appreciating your own time and by finding peace within. When you are at peace with yourself and truly happy, it makes it that much easier to be kind and to spread love and peace in the world. Now that doesn’t mean you are going to be all “love & light” all the time. What I mean is, that you can make a difference in your own environment simply by changing yourself. The chaos around you doesn’t change or go away, you just have to learn to vibrate at a higher frequency, so that you are in alignment with love and the good in the world.

When you spend time focusing on negative things and bad news, you are keeping yourself in a low frequency. You will be pleasantly surprised when you drift away from the programming, the media and societal pressures.

All the little things matter and make a difference – online and IRL (in real life,) but especially when we are out in the real world. For example, you can do small gestures to brighten someone’s day, like paying for someone’s coffee at your local coffee shop. You can hold the door open for someone, or let them in front of you in line, if you are not in a hurry. Don’t road rage when you are stuck in traffic; say please and thank you; smile at someone just because; think twice before you send a sassy or sarcastic reply. Be respectful of other peoples’ time and the struggles they may be going through. Everyone is going through something in their own way. And everyone is different, but ultimately, I think everyone just wants to be treated fairly and with respect. I think we all want the same things: more prosperity, more peace and more time to live our lives as best as possible in love and in health.

As we mark the calendar with a new year, a new month, a new day…make an effort to enjoy it all, celebrate everything! Plan parties, reunions, invite a friend to coffee, spend more time with family and friends…take time to have conversations, to listen, to share and to appreciate the time you have with your loved ones. Start a new hobby, rekindle a past one; take that trip; visit your daughter, your father, your grandmother or your best friend you never see anymore because you both are “too busy.” If you are the one who just waits for others to reach out to you, make an effort to initiate the call or text first.

Don’t keep waiting for the right time to visit or the right day or to take that vacation time. Take smaller road trips; create your own adventures. Time is ticking for us all – make it count! As we get older, it most definitely feels like time is speeding up (maybe it is) but the point is, young or old, time is promised to no one, so don’t wait for that special occasion or the New Year or an anniversary – start enjoying today just because.

Do not wait until you face a health scare, or you get some bad news that someone you love is sick or dying, to really start living your life and appreciating your family and friends and doing what truly makes YOU happy. You cannot turn back the clock. You cannot change the past; you can only learn from it. We only have NOW!

Strive each day to live a life of peace, love and harmony with yourself and with others. Focus on the good, practice daily gratitude; listen to more love songs and less bad news. We cannot expect the world to change, if we are not willing to make changes ourselves, for the better. Start appreciating your loved ones more or at the very least, show them!

We always find the time to go grieve the loss of a loved one no matter what our schedules are, but do we make the same effort when they are alive? We ALWAYS have time for funerals. Why not make time for LIFE?! “It’s funny when you’re dead people start listening.” (Cue The Band Perry song, “If I Die Young.”) Don’t wait to listen. Don’t wait to live your life fully. Send the flowers now, not when it’s too late. Plant a tree in someone’s honor, not wait for their memory; gift someone a plant or grow sunflower seeds!) Give your loved ones their eulogies in life.

Remember that everything that happens to us, for us and through us, is a test of our evolution as human beings. It is a test of how we respond and what we learn from those, often harsh lessons. Even in the face of tragedy, and loss, we can turn that pain into purpose by helping others who may be going through something similar. When you learn to live your life on purpose with faith over fear, it helps to bring more peace of mind to you and to make our time here on Earth more intentional, thus affecting the collective.

Own your own happiness and challenge yourself to be better! Others can’t make you happy if you are not happy with yourself. When you are truly happy within, you are not willing to settle for anything less. All the lessons you’ve been through have gotten you to this point. Start focusing on how you speak to yourself and don’t be so hard on yourself. “Bashar” says, to repeat this affirmation daily, “I am who I am and that is enough; “I am who I am and that is enough.” Know that you are enough right now and always have the opportunity to become a better version of yourself in terms of frequency. The energy you vibrate at, is the energy you will get back, but it all starts with self-love.

Find what brings you joy, what makes you feel at peace, and do what you feel passionate about and nourish that. This in turn, will bring you harmony within and bring satisfaction and ultimately, happiness into your life. If you live authentically in your relationships, in your work and in your truth, you will begin to radiate peace and love.

But mainly, send a message to your children, your grandchildren, nieces and nephews and the younger generation on how to live passionately and authentically, even if it is in a time we may no longer see, by making every moment count with no regrets. Use your time here in this physical reality to keep learning and making a difference.

Leave a legacy worth following. Enjoy the moments NOW. Don’t just celebrate the wins, celebrate the whole journey. Every year, every month and every day, remember that life is like a book, waiting for the chapters to be written. Our lives are a blank canvas from the time we are born, and we get to design the life we want. The key is to learn, to know and to believe, that we have the power to do so. We can write our own stories and paint our own canvas by creating the life we want by believing, working & achieving our goals

Remember that there are things you prayed for and wished for that are now part of your life. We must take the good with the bad, the ups and the downs. It is all part of the circle of life. How we choose to fill our days, is up to us.

And “If everything around you looks dark, look around again, you may be the LIGHT.” – Rumi

Fill your days with color! Remember to look for the good moments and be the rainbow, when the world feels like a rainstorm. What you never did is done. What you will do is yet unknown. What you have is NOW.

Live life so that you have just enough time. Don’t just set the intentions, live with intention!

“Amen,” “So be it.” And so it is…

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Author,
Lissette Rozenblat –

Founder/Blogger, The Power to be Happy

Owner/Designer, MiaMoon Designs